Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Fancy C-60 Podcast #68: September 24, 2013

    Fancy C-60 Podcast #68
  1. *intro*
  2. "Any Dance'll Do" - The Rascals
  3. "I Saw The Light That Day" - The 88
  4. "Elephant Stone" - The Stone Roses
  5. "Modern Fiction" - Parks
  6. *Paul Lynde zinger*
  7. "Are You Cuckoo" - Bay City Rollers
  8. "Grrr" - Lily Tomlin
  9. "Crazy Horses (live)" - Osmonds
  10. "Great Big No (live) - Lemonheads
  11. "Can You Take Me Back" - The Beatles
  12. "Long Distance Runaround" - Yes
  13. "Super Freak" - Big Daddy
  14.  *Bill Cosby & chocolate cake*
  15. "Ring Me Up" - Divynyls
  16. "There Must Be Some Kind of Misunderstanding" - Andrew Thompson
  17. "Hard To Believe" - The Monkees
  18. "The Warrior" - Honey Ltd.
  19. *Mary Poppins wisdom*
  20. "Custom City" - Annette
  21. "Drag City" - Jan & Dean
  22. "Think About The Days" - The Beach Boys
  23. "Wonderful / Song for Children" - Rufus Wainwright
  24. *see you next week!*

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Goodbye for now.

I'm sitting here trying to think if there has ever been a time in my life more trying and downright sorrowful as the past 5-6 weeks. At the same time, despite the profound loss of my only brother, I've had the opportunity to experience the incredible kindness of friends, and witness an outpouring of love from a packed hall in Northeast Minneapolis at my brother's memorial service this past Tuesday.
My brother's ashes (in a 45 carrying case) at his memorial service
The memorial was assembled by Jay's (and my) oldest, closest friends. I was so impressed by the dedication, time, and heart that our friends put into this memorial. The service kicked off (and concluded) with the fantastic Edison High School Alumni Marching Band, who contacted me soon after Jay's passing. How perfect, I thought, for a marching band (which Jay marched with himself for many summers) to perform at this memorial. They set the proper tone for the proceeding hour.

My husband Leo and I each did a reading; Leo's was biblical, while mine was a portion of Todd Rundgren's "Healing", a song from an album that Jay recommended to me earlier this year. I was feeling all poised, confident, and composed just before approaching the mic, but it didn't take long for me to crumble into a poor man's version of Cher at Sonny Bono's memorial.
WORDS performing at my brother's service (pic by D. Engebretson)
I choked my way through the reading before being rescued by my WORDS bandmates, humbly launching into our first live performance in nearly 15 years (The Beatles' "In My Life" and my bro's fave song, Bread's "If"). For a few short minutes we paid tribute to a brother and best friend through music (one of the great loves of his life). At the same time I was allowed to drift into the space created by our instruments and vocal harmonies. It was a moment of bliss amidst weeks of chaos and tragedy.

Jay (also a musician) played for over 25 years with his own band Popbang!, who performed Semisonic's "Closing Time" in his remembrance (with me sitting in on bass). Finally, the marching band put a perfect blue & gold bow on the event with Edison's school song, which brought the entire room to their feet.

Our goal for the afternoon was to remember Jay by celebrating his life, which is what he would have preferred, but tears were inevitable. There was much laughter, joy, sadness, you name it. There was also a strong sense of community - something both Jay and I valued as natives of Northeast Minneapolis. Leo and I left for home that day feeling loved and supported, knowing that we helped in giving Jay a sendoff worthy of his approval.

RIP, bro. You packed a lot of living into 48 short years. I hope you know how much you are loved.

This pic of Jay and me pretty much sums up our lifelong friendship.
We thought we were hilarious.